A Modern-Day Hero

By: Daden Ghising

Unlike classic heroes from myths, tales, fictional books that have super powers, or lasers, weapons, and a cape, a modern day hero is someone who exemplifies good qualities and is characterized by their actions, values and the impacts they have on others. Everyone has their own hero they look up to, a devoted fan, an enthusiast about, or are inspired by. For example Superman, Batman, Captain America, Spiderman, etc. People have their own perspective and say on who their modern day hero is, but in my eyes, it always has been and always will be my Dad.

Growing up, I looked up to my Dad so much. All my peers, friends, relatives tell me how much my Dad and I look alike, or how I’m the miniature version of him. Hearing those comments, it always made me feel gleeful and drove a desire to be just like my Dad! Ever since I was born, my Dad offered his guidance to me and helped navigate me throughout life. In primary school, anytime we had an art project, I would dedicate my art to my Father. I’d write the words “To: Appa” with a heart I tried my best to make neat. The excitement to go home and wait for my Dad to come back from work was strong and overpowering. Getting to see his big cheerful smile and hear his praise, improved my mood a hundred times. “Phe yakpo!” translating to very good in Tibetan, my Appa exclaimed with a thumbs up and his warm grim. My face lit up, and a smile grew ear to ear after hearing those words. You could spot my Dad’s bright smile and loud, hearty laugh from a mile away. Despite my Dad working all the time, he would always make time for me and attend my school events. During my performance, I thought my Dad wouldn’t make it, so it had affected my mood. However, as I looked into the crowd of eyes, I spotted a pair of eyes with the most heart warming and proud look. I realized it was my Dad, and I had done my best to outshine the rest of my class, just for the sake of my hero! He demonstrated to me that sacrifice and hard work is necessary for success, but also showed me how important it is to keep strong family ties. My dad taught me resilience and the need of establishing a balanced life.

As I grew older, I realized how much my Dad portrayed such an outstanding work ethic, and had so much responsibility. It’s not easy being the Dad of the family, being both the protector and provider. His commitment to his job at the Union, alongside with his ability to manage family life, painted a picture of my Dad as a hero. I recall those nights where he would be working long hours and shifts, and come home in the darkness. On those nights, I wasn’t able to have a good sleep, knowing how hard my Dad is working to ensure our family is complete and well. During times, school did get harder, yet my Dad would always help out with homework and share whatever knowledge he has. Every night I looked forward to having dinner, knowing my Father would share his stories, and we would all have a sincere laugh with genuine smiles. Throughout time, I had been in difficult situations and faced challenges but all with the help of my Dad. This hero of mine always knew how to solve any problem, and encouraged me to view these struggles as opportunities for growth. My Appa had prepared me for the real world both physically, mentally, and emotionally.

A significant lesson my Dad had taught me was about the importance of compassion. In the Buddhist religion, we are taught that kindness is the center path for everything. As a youngster, I had no idea what any of that meant, but my dad was there to guide me along the way. He taught me about having empathy for all living things, to abandon an ego, have forgiveness, and to express generosity. The interactions my Dad had with other people was always pure. Whenever he sees strangers, he would flash a smile, wave at babies, tip street performers, pray over emergency vehicles and would be heartbroken over stray animals. I would stop, stare and think to myself, then understand that he exemplifies love. Everywhere he goes, he has a bit of love to share with everyone and everything, and I strive so hard to be like that.

Overall, my Father has had a huge and varied impact on me as my modern day hero. As a girl, I thought I’d idolize my Mother more, despite the unconditional love I have for her, it’s different with my Appa. He has greatly influenced my personal development and progress with his diligence, honesty, kindness, and encouragement. My Appa has allowed me to overcome obstacles in life, following goals with perseverance, and being kind and respectful to others. I'm grateful for his influence on my life and to be able to develop and mature with his teachings. He radiates warmth and humbleness. My dad’s never ending support, reassurance, and belief in me has allowed me to follow my passions. He has truly shaped who I am today, my interactions, my mindfulness of other people and the importance of positive contribution.